So what do you do when this happens? How do you know whether its time to call it quits or too sit down and revamp? Its hard, because in one instant you can be so angry and ready to throw it all away, but then the next you know that you can't imagine being without him (right now that is! lol) But what do you do to keep a level head and act like an adult? Well I was talking to a friend of mine and he told me something interesting. He broke down the dating process to me in one simple term: Interview. See dating is the same as interviewing for a position. The position in this sense is actually the ending result of your desired relationship... which in most cases is marriage.
The moral of this story is, just like any career search, you have to do your research on your mate. No i am not talking about stalking him or calling all of his exes for a run down of events, i am talking about communicating. Building a relationship is not easy but with effective communication it can help make it easier on both individuals. Helps them to understand each others feelings, thoughts, etc.
The next part is seeking a out the career you want. This is the stage in the relationship where you define what you are both seeking; long term and short term goals. Not only goals with each other but goals as individuals. A big underlining issue in relationships today is conformity. In most relationships both parties are excited about learning about the other and sometimes this causes one person to conform but forget that individuality is necessary to. Imagine both of you doing the same thing everyday at the same time? That would get boring. There has to be some level of individuality in the relationship to give it a healthy balance. So don't be afraid to ask each other where you see yourself in 2 months, 2 years or 5 years from now. Thats ok. You want to know where the other is at so that you aren't making decisions based off of fantasy.
The last part is finding the job and accepting the offer. Now this is the part in the relationship that you will probably go through more times than once. You get a good relationship, you make all the plans, and then BOOM... This isn't working. You realized that this isn't exactly what you bargained for. And this is ok. Each time this happens you learn more about yourself and realize that God placed that person in your life for a season. Just say thank God and keep moving forward. When you do find that individual that you feel like you can spend your whole life with it is important to understand that you are in the final stages of the interview process. Either you get the job or keep moving. The job in this case is whatever end result you want. This could be marriage or just a promise ring for the future. But it is up to both of you guys not to waste time but to evaluate the situation and decide if this is the right place for you.
With all of that being said, its up to you rather or not you accept the position, but don't wait 10 years to decide because the position that was once there may no longer be an option! Ya Hear Me (southern voice lol)
Live. Love. Exist. <3
The moral of this story is, just like any career search, you have to do your research on your mate. No i am not talking about stalking him or calling all of his exes for a run down of events, i am talking about communicating. Building a relationship is not easy but with effective communication it can help make it easier on both individuals. Helps them to understand each others feelings, thoughts, etc.
The next part is seeking a out the career you want. This is the stage in the relationship where you define what you are both seeking; long term and short term goals. Not only goals with each other but goals as individuals. A big underlining issue in relationships today is conformity. In most relationships both parties are excited about learning about the other and sometimes this causes one person to conform but forget that individuality is necessary to. Imagine both of you doing the same thing everyday at the same time? That would get boring. There has to be some level of individuality in the relationship to give it a healthy balance. So don't be afraid to ask each other where you see yourself in 2 months, 2 years or 5 years from now. Thats ok. You want to know where the other is at so that you aren't making decisions based off of fantasy.
The last part is finding the job and accepting the offer. Now this is the part in the relationship that you will probably go through more times than once. You get a good relationship, you make all the plans, and then BOOM... This isn't working. You realized that this isn't exactly what you bargained for. And this is ok. Each time this happens you learn more about yourself and realize that God placed that person in your life for a season. Just say thank God and keep moving forward. When you do find that individual that you feel like you can spend your whole life with it is important to understand that you are in the final stages of the interview process. Either you get the job or keep moving. The job in this case is whatever end result you want. This could be marriage or just a promise ring for the future. But it is up to both of you guys not to waste time but to evaluate the situation and decide if this is the right place for you.
With all of that being said, its up to you rather or not you accept the position, but don't wait 10 years to decide because the position that was once there may no longer be an option! Ya Hear Me (southern voice lol)
Live. Love. Exist. <3
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