I moved to Memphis in May of last year, but i didn't shake my cancer until August. (If your reading this you are probably shocked to think i had cancer... lol but it isn't the type of cancer you are thinking of). My cancer was a man. He was eating me alive. Sometimes i didn't even recognize myself. I didn't even realize that i was settling. Let me tell it, I WAS IN LUUUUUUVVVVVVV!!! Despite his consistent cheating and lies, i was head over heels for him. Don't get me wrong MAMA did not raise no fool, and i always made sure to have me a backup plan, but i passed up some really great opportunity's to be with this man. Well let me rephrase that because just because your 24 or 25 (his mom said he was born in 85 but he swears he was born in 86... wierd and should have been a warning sign) does not make you a man. He was far from it, but let me tell you i loved his dirty draws. And its funny cause it wasn't like the intimacy was all that, heck it was just regular. LOL i am still laughing at that.
But i came down here with intentions of letting him go. I mean if i jump two states, i was hoping he wouldn't wanna even deal with me. But it was totally opposite. LOL even though he had his chicks there he was still checking on me. I don't doubt that he loved me but i just don't think he was mature enough to understand where i wanted to be in life. Living in a college town post graduation and not going to school and working at the bookstore was not in my plans, but he was ok with that.
Well anyway long story short, he messed up my credit and i kept trying to find ways to get around it. I was thinking that since he moved back home with his mom he had his money together. LOL nope he was still a lie and now his mother was helping him. (She still thinks her son has a degree... HAHAAAAA Rust College has no evidence of this degree nor were Kappa's on the yard at any duration of his so called time at Rust.) So finally i got smart and i decided to go ahead and pay it. Just really go ahead and pay it. So out of my savings for my house, i had to pay 1400 to get the crap off of my record. Talk about someone that is mad!
But i have never felt sooooo free. FREE. That was the last thing that was holding he and i together. That was it. I am still taking him to court but it felt good to get rid of the debt that was holding me back.
I don't totally disown what he and i had because i am stronger and smarter when it comes to men because he taught me so much.
Now i have a good man whom loves me for me not for what i can be or do for him, he just loves me. And it feels good to be free of baggage!
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