MOVING FORWARD.... THANKS

I moved to Memphis in May of last year, but i didn't shake my cancer until August.  (If your reading this you are probably shocked to think i had cancer... lol but it isn't the type of cancer you are thinking of). My cancer was a man. He was eating me alive. Sometimes i didn't even recognize myself.  I didn't even realize that i was settling.  Let me tell it, I WAS IN LUUUUUUVVVVVVV!!! Despite his consistent cheating and lies, i was head over heels for him. Don't get me wrong MAMA did not raise no fool, and i always made sure to have me a backup plan, but i passed up some really great opportunity's to be with this man. Well let me rephrase that because just because your 24 or 25 (his mom said he was born in 85 but he swears he was born in 86... wierd and should have been a warning sign) does not make you a man. He was far from it, but let me tell you i loved his dirty draws. And its funny cause it wasn't like the intimacy was all that, heck it was just regular. LOL i am still laughing at that.
But i came down here with intentions of letting him go. I mean if i jump two states, i was hoping he wouldn't wanna even deal with me. But it was totally opposite. LOL even though he had his chicks there he was still checking on me. I don't doubt that he loved me but i just don't think he was mature enough to understand where i wanted to be in life. Living in a college town post graduation and not going to school and working at the bookstore was not in my plans, but he was ok with that.
Well anyway long story short, he messed up my credit and i kept trying to find ways to get around it.  I was thinking that since he moved back home with his mom he had his money together. LOL nope he was still a lie and now his mother was helping him. (She still thinks her son has a degree... HAHAAAAA Rust College has no evidence of this degree nor were Kappa's on the yard at any duration of his so called time at Rust.)  So finally i got smart and i decided to go ahead and pay it. Just really go ahead and pay it. So out of my savings for my house, i had to pay 1400 to get the crap off of my record. Talk about someone that is mad!
But i have never felt sooooo free. FREE. That was the last thing that was holding he and i together. That was it. I am still taking him to court but it felt good to get rid of the debt that was holding me back.
I don't totally disown what he and i had because i am stronger and smarter when it comes to men because he taught me so much.
Now i have a good man whom loves me for me not for what i can be or do for him, he just loves me. And it feels good to be free of baggage!

Just Grew up In 30 Seconds

So I'm 23 and just got word that my bid for a house was approved and our expected closing date is May 17!
OMG.... This is so unreal. I am super excited but scared at the same time...
Well i gotta furnish this place. I still have my bed from college (Hey its comfortable and fits me but it doesn't have a head board but hey when your in college who needs headboards? They make too much noise anyway), my futon from my townhouse my junior year, tables, chairs, dressers, TV's... but i think the place is gonna look a lil homely for a while. Gonna go room by room... guess i should probably start looking into a fridge! LOL theres a brand new stove and dishwasher but no fridge! LOL that is first on my list. Yes i will invest in a fridge... Wonder will someone donate me a fridge? Maybe write to Oprah and tell her i am her long lost daughter and although we have been apart for years the only thing i am asking for is a new fridge. Think that will work? In my dreams. But seriously i really need a fridge! LOL
But i am super excited and will posting about the process along the way.
If anyone has any tips... PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE Send them to me! I am so open its ridic!
PS i will be selling Avon as my side hustle, so if you need some goods... you know where to come! LOL had to plug myself in here some where

Dropping My Pants.... (SIZES THAT IS)

In Feb 2011 I declared War on my weight! I have always been able to lose weight fast, but the moment a crisis hits... I swear my bank statements show more fast food places than bills being paid (Seriously, i'm sure the bank thought I was either 250 lbs or at least feeding a family of 8!) Anywho, so I moved to Tennessee last May, and my o my what a change. 

For starters, my college diet consisted of cold pizza, mexican food (thanks to my ex's love of mexican food and my half latino sister's desire to make me cultured!) , and snacks snacks snacks! I lived in apartments my sophmore, junior, and senior years but the microwave was still my best friend.  I ate yogurt all the time to keep me (as my dad would say) "regular", but healthy eating was not in my daily activities. I mean why would it be? I thought I was fine and that all the walking I did around IU's huge campus was enough. Plus i did my occassional workout binge, where i would go to the gym almost everyday for a few weeks  before a big weekend! This was the way of life.

I knew i wasn't the skinniest thing walking, but i wasn't overweight. Just like to call it healthy. But when i moved down here, WOW. Everyone was trying to feed me because my family believed that I was under nourished! And believe me, I wasn't turning any of this good home cooked food down.  Who knew pulled pork with cole slaw on a bun could be sooooo good!!!  I was in heaven. I kept my weight consistent because I played softball and my job as an Assistant Manager required me to be on my feet for hours at a time. So needless to say i was always active.  Then before i knew it softball ended, i had a desk job, and boyfriend that thought i was sexy just way i was!

I began to get secretary's booty.... Yeah we all know that booty that sticks out unintentionally and is flat! Yeah just what i needed to compliment my already "high booty" i inherited from my father. So i told myself i would shape up. Well shaping up meant eating more! I filled my drawer with snacks and it became expected for me to eat out with the guys at lunch everyday.  There is nothing healthy about fried catfish, cabbage, and spaghetti. NOTHING!!! 

The new year came and I had to get fitted for my sister's wedding in July.  I knew my size and i walked in David's Bridal with so much confidence. I went back to try on my normal size 10, it wouldn't fit. So she tried a 12... that wouldn't fit either... (mind you i had been fasting since the beginning of January and thought i was loosing weight!) Do you know i had to get a size 16? The lady tried to make me feel better telling me that it was my boobs. Yeah my boobs alright... NO MA'AM.... I AM FAT!

That next week, i went and joined an all woman's gym. Jane's Gym in Southaven, MS. I joined because they offered a program that was supposed to study me and give me guaranteed results in 18 weeks. THIS IS THE BEST THING THAT EVER HAPPENED TO ME! Seriously!

I attend on average about 4 days a week and i have lost 9lbs healthily in 2 months! Thats not to mention i have dropped three pants sizes and my legs are the best they have every looked. I take Zumba, Pilates, Yoga, Body Pump, Step, and as of two weeks ago a Two Night a week Bootcamp! All of these results and i can count how many times i have stepped on a machine.

I am going on a cruise in May, and i have purchased a brand new bikini.... i tried on my old one and low and behold it fits... funny thing is, it's loose everywhere but the boobs!!

I am so excited about my weight loss! I will post pictures to show everyone my progress. 

All i did was increase my veggies and fruits, decrease my fatty foods, and work out. Im telling you not only do i feel better about my outside, i feel better inside. The only downside, is that the majority of my pants won't fit... Im dropping pants like no one's business and im kinda running out. My boyfriend says i'm HOT but he thinks im loosing toooo much weight! LOL what does he know anyway?

What is Beyond Basic?

I am the wierdest of all of my friends. I feel like im not normal. But just recently i realized that i wasn't basic. I am not the average 23 year old. For one, I graduated from a BIG 10 school in 4 years!!! Yes this happened after nearly flunking out my freshman year, having to attend a community college the first semester of my sophmore year just to prove i was serious about school, and not to mention the endless semesters I spend in the classroom during the hot summers. semesters of summer school!  Did i mention that i held down two jobs while in school? Yeah... and on top of all that i was trying to balance partying, a sometimey boyfriend who also had about three other girlfriends that he insisted were merely just friends, school work, and jobs!
Yeah and now i am working TWO whole states away from my hometown in the corn fields of Indiana. I now reside in Tennessee and work for a highly respected company that has nothing to do with my Telecommunications degree! I would like to personally thank that really boring Computer Applications Professor, for making labs mandatory and lectures were not! I am able to use Excel with my eyes closed, and that alone was a foot in the door.  I started off with an internship paying about $12 and hour plus overtime! (I really thought i was in HEAVEN... BALLING!!)  I proved myself in the first month to the manager but i had to wait til my internship was over before i could be offered a full time salaried position.  I studied hard to learn the systems, even staying late to work on projects.  After my three months was up, I walked around this place with my chest proud like i owned it.  Then they didn't have a title for me and that it had to be created! I was furious! Why you ask? DUH... that meant i wasn't gonna get my DOLLAS! I tried to speed up the process, even writing up my own job description to get approved by corporate. Needless to say after threats of looking for another job, i was given my papers to sign to become a Salaried Employee.  In this day and age this is big, did i say this economy sucks already? If i haven't, there you go.
So now i'm working and have been working for this company for over 7 months and i still feel like hmmmmmmm I WANT MORE $$$$$$$. But how do you get more $$ when your only experience is saving the managers butt every week? Can i document this? LOL 
Anywho, on top of having a career, i am also in the market to buy my first home! I am super excited. So when i say i am Beyond Basic... I like to think i am... I am blessed and highly favored. Beyond the Basic lifestyle... Yeah that's me